What would you do if you knew that someone important around you is going to leave you soon? How would you behave? Differently than normal? This is your chance to immediately straighten out things with anyone who is important for you and you have some kind of unfinished business going on. The best part? You can start doing that without them to actually leave you.
If you would receive the information that someone you love (e.g. your partner, kids, parents, family, good friends or someone else important) would leave you soon. Would you keep on doing your normal daily routine or would you change something in respect to that person? Would you talk about undiscussed topics, follow up on previously led arguments, spend more time with them, simply tell them that you love them or just dare to say “Thank you” for everything or anything they have done to you or for you?
Our everyday life and challenges overwhelm us sometimes and let us set focus to things that might actually often not be the most important in its very sense. This is a way how to detect a necessary course-correction in your relationships.
Let’s make a common scenario where a very good friend of yours will move to another country far away – within one week. What is coming up in your mind? Did you talk about all the important stuff with him or her that you wanted? Would you have liked to meet more in person with them or even ask the person for a first date to get things a bit further?
If you happen to realize that you would drastically change your behavior in such an imaginary scenario with limited time resources left, it is a very good sign that you have not given that relationship enough focus or the right priority in the past. Do you see what I am talking about?
Take a moment and play this thought game for any important person that comes into your mind. And then even try to think about other people that are not typically around you all the time. Maybe an old school friend, maybe a former partner, maybe your school teacher or your work colleague from your previous job. If you discover that you have some kind of unfinished business with any or many of those, then I’d advise you start today to get into contact with the ones that feel most important to you and straighten things out, make things clear or just get again into touch and tell them that they are important for you. With the most important ones at the beginning you will fast feel that you are giving attention where it belongs to things will change in your favor.
If you are able to do this when there is (still) the chance to do so, you’ll be able to take things into your own hands and move them the way you want them to. You’ll get a sense of freedom, a sense of having a handle on your own life and destiny and you will certainly avoid the regret of getting into contact with them when it is already too late.
After you have gone through your relationships and started to make changes in that area, you can make another step forward and think where your attention and priorities go in terms of time, job, money, or health. How would you feel if either of those would soon be limited. What would you change you life to look like?
Start creating the life you want by focusing on what matters for you and giving that space. You will see your life transform in a positive way.
Enjoy.
